I have always been friendly. I love the story my mom tells about dropping me off at daycare. Instead of clinging to her legs and crying I ran straight into the playroom and announced my presence. Immediately I started walking up to other little toddlers and introducing myself.
Not much has changed in the last 20 years. I still get a thrill from walking up to complete strangers and enthusisastically sticking my hand out and saying, “Hello! My name is Christina Graw what is yours?”
I had no problem making friends in high school or college. In fact, I’m still close to many of the people in my past. But, as life goes on people grow up, get married and move away.
Now most of my friends are scattered across different states and cities making it difficult to see them on a regular basis. In high school you see your friends everyday in class and in college all of your friends live within walking distance. After college things start to change.
Instead of weekly hangouts with my friends I am lucky if I get to see them once a month. Part of me misses having the conveinence of seeing a friend on a daily basis.
A few weeks ago I met a really awesome girl my age. We struck up a conversation quickly and found ourselves sharing intimate details about our lives together. I realized that I really like this girl and wanted to see her again.
I met her in a professional setting and was not able to get her number. I left that day thinking about how much I wished I could see her again. Then it hit me! I was trying to make a new friend.
I hadn’t done this in at least 3 or 4 years. I wasn’t quite sure how to go about it. I wanted to ask her to hangout but was afraid she wouldn’t want to.
I couldn’t believe it! I was feeling insecure about making a new friend. I’m hoping to see her again soon. I am also hoping that I can get her number.
I never thought I would see the day I would be awkward about making a new friend. I guess life has a funny way of changing.
How should I go about asking my new “friend” to hang out?