Because I have chosen to live with my grandmother (more lovingly known to me as Baba) I’ve the opportunity to catch a glimpse of what life might have been like two decades ago. At my age, my Baba had been married for 5 years, had a 4 year old daughter, a house and a full time job. Out of that list, the only thing I have is a full time job. I often ask her how she managed to do it all.
She usually just gives me a big smile and says,” I just did it.” Seems simple enough. There are many things and stories from her past that I truly admire. She came from a simpler time.
Looking pretty for your man:
Anyone that knows me, is aware of the fact that I run ALL THE TIME.
A few months ago, I came home from a particularly hard run minutes before my boyfriend was coming over to visit. I wasn’t really going to have much time to “fix up”. Normally, I would think nothing of sitting in my sweats, with my hair piled on top of my head in front of my boyfriend. He loved me for who I was, not what I looked like, right?
My Baba didn’t seem to think so. She made a comment that sent me over the edge. She said, “Shouldn’t you fix up a little for your boyfriend?”
She was totally innocent and just making converstation. I, on the other hand, overreacted to what she said and freaked out on her. My Baba comes from a time when women would constantly wear makeup and dresses in front of their husbands “to keep their eyes from wandering”.
Being a 21st girl, the idea of always wearing makeup and cute clothes in front of my boyfriend seemed absurd. My boyfriend was more like my best friend, I was completely comfortable being myself around him.
I brought up the topic with my boyfriend and he said that he actually liked it when I didn’t wear makeup. I can’t speak for men in my Baba’s time, but I would venture to say that guys from my generation love it when girls dress down on occasion.
21st Century Relationships:
Obviously, things have changed over the years. I’m pretty sure I will continue to wear no make-up and sweats around my boyfriend. I have to say I’m glad things have changed. Girls-Do you feel pressure to always look good in your relationship? Guys-Do you like it when your girlfriend is dressed down or goes for the more casual look?
Change can be a very good thing. And in the case of relationships, I would say we are better off now then we were 20 years ago.