Dating online is a common thing in today’s world. Yet, every person I meet who has an online dating profile makes up an excuse as to why they started dating online.
Here are just a few of the things I’ve heard:
“I’m too busy to meet people in real life.”
“I’m so over the bar scene.”
“I don’t really even use my profile, I just started it because I was bored.”
“I’m not good at meeting people in person.”
All these responses honestly shock me.The overwhelmingly majority of people I talk to seem to be embarrassed that they are dating online. I’m not really sure why this is.
I think part of the problem is, we are worried about what others will think of us if we tell them we are dating online. There seems to be this stigma that goes along with online dating. People wrongly assume that everyone on a dating site is desperate, and weird.
I wish I could count the amount of times I received a shocked look when someone finds out I’m on a dating site. People say such rude things to me when they find out. I’ve been told that only weird, awkward people join dating sites. My favorite type of response is when someone looks at me with an empathetic smile. The face says it all.
I consider myself reasonably attractive, fun and outgoing. I have absolutely no problem meeting people, in fact it’s one of the things I’m the best at.
Everyone has different reasons for joining a dating site. I joined because I honestly enjoy meeting all kinds of people.
So, if you are on a dating site stop giving excuses for why you joined.It’s perfectly normal to be on a dating site. You aren’t weird. You aren’t desperate and you most certainly don’t have problems meeting people if you join. Have some confidence in yourself and be proud of the fact that you are open to meeting new people and possibly finding love.