She’s Loud, He’s Quiet

Opposites attract. I’ve heard this many times when it comes to relationships, but I’m not sure how I feel about it. So, I took to Facebook and Twitter to hear what you had to say. Also, to clarify when I say “opposites” I’m primarily referring to personalities. There are many ways couples can be opposite. For simplicity sake, I am writing just about personalities.

A lot of the responses I received were from outgoing women who were married or in relationships with quiet, laid back men.
Introverted vs. Extroverted:
Friend Meg from Facebook:
My husband and I are completely different, now it is not always an easy thing to be with someone total opposite of you but I can say that my husband is my best friend and my better half. Being with someone so opposite really keeps things interesting and I think really makes u have to work harder for your relationship . Even though we are opposite from one another never run out of things the change in one another and always learn from the other. I beilive that a introverted and extroverted person have a more complicated realtionship but always love each other for there differences . I can also add that even though he isn’t my talker I talk enough for the both of us

Facebook Friend Ashley:
I just got married, and my husband has the polar opposite personality than me. He is one of the most laid back, quiet people you will ever meet. The type of person where nothing bothers him. He even walks slow because he is never in a hurry. I am loud and outgoing. Social butterfly type. I always want to get there as fast as possible. Somehow, lucky for me, we fit like two puzzle pieces. He is totally everything I’m not and we balance each other out!

Everyone’s Different:
Some people felt that every relationship is different. Some people are attracted to someone just like them, while others are attracted to their polar opposite.
Facebook Friend Josh:
In terms of relationships, I don’t think definitive answers or “recipes” (so to speak) exist outside our own imaginations. I’ve had pleasant relationships with people very similar to myself as well as those who are nearly polar opposite. I think there are too many factors involved for a “one size fits most” solution in terms of de-coding relational compatibility in this fashion.
Differences Keep Things Exciting:
Others believe that being with someone who is their complete opposite is good because the differences keep the relationship interesting.
Facebook Friend Saimah:
I think for some people opposites can bring out the best in each other. They can challenge each other and encourage them to try new things
but it comes with a good deal of arguing if the person is stubborn and doesn’t really want to do things
Different Interests:
This response isn’t related to personality, but raises a good point. You can be in a relationship with someone who not only has a different personality, but different interests.
Facebook Friend Justin:
The only thing my wife and I have in common is that we are more for staying in than going out…. our likes and dislikes are pretty much opposite. I love spicy food she doesn’t I like horror movies she hates them.. oh and neither of us like seafood. I think connections and true love has more to do with the soul and who God wants us to be with who he wants us to be with.

I learned one simple thing after writing this post. Everyone’s relationship is different. The most important thing is to figure out what you want and need out of a relationship. *Note: That’s my next blog post,learning what you need and want out of a relationship.

One thought on “She’s Loud, He’s Quiet

  1. I wrote about this myself about how Opposites Do Attract. Yes these couples may have to work a bit harder at their relationship to learn and respect each others differences but it can definitely work!
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