Read the blog post above mine, go ahead do it. After you’ve read that, continue to read this post.
The first time I read this post, I was in complete agreement. I thought to myself,”This blogger is so right, if you get married before 23 you are way too young.” Then I thought about the article a little bit longer and realized that I didn’t agree with the writer at all.
I didn’t get married young, but I have the feeling that couples that chose to, got some very negative opinions. They probably had people warning them about how the divorce rate was higher for younger couples, and how important it is to spend time getting to know and love yourself before getting married.
The writer of this post didn’t take into account that all 23 things on her list can be done while married. And that maybe the young, married couples have traveled and have truly discovered themselves.
It’s not just young married couples that get judgements though. If you recently went through a break up and start dating a new person right away, people will judge you and tell you to “take more time for yourself.” Or if you decide to move in with your boyfriend of only 5 months, you best believe you will get opinions on that one. Have a baby before the age of 30? You’ll probably receive some backlash for that as well.
We live in a very judgmental society. If someone’s decisions are different than our own we automatically assume they are wrong. I’m here to tell you that’s not the case.
As millennials we are all over the place. Some people have 2 kids by the time they are 23, while some are still in their party phase. That’s ok. We need to stop putting a specific age and time bracket on when we accomplish things in our lives.
So, if you are 21, and ready to get married I say go for it. If you are 25 and still single and ready to mingle, live it up! We MUST STOP judging each other.