14 Things Love Doesn’t Do

Love. It’s such a simple, sweet word. But, once two people fall in love, things can get complicated.

When you truly love someone there isn’t much you wouldn’t do for that person. Your lover’s happiness becomes more important than your own. If the relationship is healthy, then your partner is also concerned with your happiness.

There’s a saying that sounds a bit cliché, but I believe is true. It says that love is blind. Sometimes when we are so in love with a person, we choose to not see what is happening right in front of us.

Obviously, there are no hard or fast rules when it comes to dating, so often it’s very hard to figure out what true love is. It’s hard to know what behavior is unacceptable in a relationship.

We all know the verse in the Bible that tells us what love is, if you can’t remember, click here:

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20corinthians%2013:4-7

There are so many things that love is, but what should love never do? I put my own list together below. Some of the answers are from my friends on Twitter and Facebook as well. What would you add to this list?

• Love isn’t hiding the truth even if its painful
• Love isn’t controlling
• Love doesn’t hold you back from becoming who you were meant to be
• A person who truly loves another doesn’t put their needs before their partner’s
• Love doesn’t keep score
• True love doesn’t pressure you to do things you are uncomfortable with
• Love doesn’t keep you from having friends
• Love doesn’t keep score
• Love isn’t insecure, it trusts
• Love doesn’t manipulate
• Love doesn’t take advantage of another person’s feelings, finances, etc.
• Love never controls your life and who you are friends with
• Love doesn’t make you feel scared
Love does not take away your strength, or make you feel powerless

I could go on forever. But, if you are reading this article and realize that you have experienced some of these things in your own relationship, stop reading right now, and go talk to your partner. Start having a conversation about what real love looks like. Trust me, you’ll be glad you did.

Oh and if you don’t want to read this whole blog, just watch Ariana Grande cover Whitney Houston’s song, “I Have Nothing”.

The whole song doesn’t apply to this post but, I think the lyrics in the first part of the song are perfect: “Share my life, take me for what I am. Cause I’ll never change all my colors for you.”

Simply put: love lets you, be you.

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